MYTHS, FALLACIES AND MOST THERAPISTS WITHOUT A CLUE

154600Post No. 39

   The meaning of “fetish” is interpreted in two ways: 1. Any object, idea, etc.,that elicits unquestioning reverence or devotion. Well known was Imelda Marcos, wife of the once president of the Philippines, who collected 2700 pairs of shoes — that was a fetish and so would one with a fetish for sports, oriental jade elephants and so on; while 2. sexual arousal brought on by any object, situation or body part not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature enters into the equation explaining cross dressers and other deviations from the old norm. The American Psychiatric Association’s definition actually only defines a cross dresser whose entire life is dedicated to an object — usually feminine in nature that triggers arousal. Specifically:”Transvestic Disorder applies when sexual arousal is the only interest for dressing and the individual has become dysfunctional in a society environment. There are a very small number in both genders where this condition applies.  However cross dressing when it appears on the surface while a teenager’s hormones are raging usually, but not for all, go through a stage of a few years when dressing of perhaps a single female garment will create sexual arousal. Obviously this fetish stage occurs after puberty while a goodly portion of those who are “triggered” to dressing do so well before puberty and, therefore, it follows that a fetish to feminine clothing could not be the initial reason. In its (fetish) place there is the common attraction to a mother or sister’s garment that does elicit unexplained but pleasing feelings to them. Further, sexual arousal is seldom the “only interest” for most, as the wide span of adult CDs involved in industry and every occupation and profession with family, and usually with children, makes the APA’s definition a narrow one indeed.

    Before closing on this subject we need to cover a few other aspects of this word. The attraction to woman’s clothing to bring arousal often continues into adult life eventhough it may not be the only contributory means for sex. For example, a CD with a supportive wife or girlfriend often remains dressed for bedroom play equally enjoyed by both partners. In fact the sex life usually improves. Also, earlier or later in life many cross dressers enjoy the feelings of peace, tranquillity, empathy, patience, less stress and a lower degree of aggressive  behavior, while the sexual attraction to female objects diminishes.

   Those who become transsexuals, in that they fully transition with hormones and surgery, are seldom, if ever,attracted to female clothing as sexual objects no more so than those born as a genetic female. Thus, fetish behavior would never apply to a TS in this context.

MYTHS, FALLACIES AND MOST THERAPISTS WITHOUT A CLUE

154600Post # 38

Julian Gladstone aka Julie Gaum

   Nullifying that progress “Drag Queens” (A small group of transgendered and transsexuals with grossly exaggerated feminine behavior and wardrobe exhibiting for financial gain or psychiological problems — not condeming their life-style) and the pathetic creatures that Jerry Springer lures by hard cash to his TV shows in the guise of cross dressing objects. Most of these represent only fringes of the CD community but they do engender audience ridicule — communicating impressions to the general public that are not only negative but totally off the mark. RuPaul, in the 1990s, despite her fame with nightclubs, TV and albums denied that he was a cross dresser but rather an entertainer for “I do not impersonate females. How many women do you know who wear 7-inch heels, 4-foot wigs and skintight dresses?.” Nevertheless RuPaul did appear on TV’s Hollywood Squares in more conservative attire and did admit that he had always been gay. We should give him credit for rising from poverty though handicapped at early age for being both homosexual and liking to dress as a female, in the deep South no less,, and then attaining fame and fortune.

   There were and are female impersonators who became professionals in order to earn a living entertaining or performing.. Though many in this group are heterosexual others likely fit into one of the sexual orientated categories previously described. Female impersonators (For a time called “Feminine mimics”) can be found hundreds of years ago in Japanese plays for GGs were not permitted to perform, in some of Shakespeare’s works, in Italian opera, and as far back as the Roman times. Since the late 1800s such performers as Julian Eltinge and hundreds like him have appeared in dramas, in vaudeville, in movies and finally on TV. How many were or are hetero “straight” is impossible to know with data available.. Why does it matter? Only that since the majority of cross drresser are straight they would like to keep the distinction clear, not to disparage .Bi and gays, but to avoid having wives, family and friends leaping to conclusions that “is not me”. In a way that appears odd because society in this day and age can easier grasp the gay label but have a much harder time understanding why cross dressers do what they do — the reasons are so dispirate that it’s impossible to fit all their motives under one umbrella.