MYTHS, FALLACIES AND MOST THERAPISTS WITHOUT A CLUE

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Julian Gladstone, aka Julie Gaum

   Before exploring the complicated subject of that 15% or less that are not in the “straight” CD group let’s look at this past century’s experience. CDs in the mid-20th Century, as they normally would,questioned their own identities — where did they fit in? Becoming even more confused when the media spotlight zeroed in on two newly transitioned transsexuals, Coccinelle, a French actress and entertainer, drew the press and then public attention in the 1950s when she became the most publicized sexual reassignment case in Europe. Meanwhile in the U. S. Christine Jorgensen, a Bronx boy, after leaving the Army when World War II ended, headed to Denmark for his transformation into an attractive woman. Christine’s nightclub appearances, wide newspaper coverage and a biographical movie resulted in national discourse and re-examination of the differences in the genders. Naturally heterosexual cross dressers wondered whether their own identities, most of them striving their best to create an illusion of being a woman in appearance, if only for brief periods, might have subconscious desires of which they were not aware.  In other words, wondered whether this dressing was only the first stage towards changing their sexuality. Indeed a small percentage found that the need to progress to fully or partially physically transition was actually their destination.

   Milton Berle (Uncle Miltie) on the Texaco StarTheater often dressed as part of his hilarious TV comedy skits but added nothing to CD acceptajnce.. Also on TV in the mid 1990s was Flip Wilson’s Geraldine. In the music field there were David Bowie and Boy George. French officials refused Boy George entry into France while on tour with his band because they claimed his sexual identity was in doubt. Really? The movie that started a cult following, the Rocky Horrow Picture Show, in 1975 initiated a succession of motion pictures still being producef to this day. “Some Like It Hot” with Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon, “Tootsie” starring Dustin Hoffman and “Mrs. Doubtfire”, though the protogonists dressed as women to escape the mob, find an acting job and so on, actally lifted the social taboo of cross dressers — if only slightly. An intersting side note: Dustin Hoffman was a “method” actor (immersed themselves fully in their parts) so he dressed from the skin out with the proper girdles and lingerie. Later when interviewed he commented that he really enjoyed the feeling and just might continue to do so.

MYTHS,FALLACIES AND MOST THERAPISTS WITHOUT A CLUE

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Julie Gaum aka Julian Gladstone

Further additions to our knowledge of sexuality come with additional labeling. Many of those individuals who would be included in such labeling can’t see a need or valid reason why they should be labeled which is understandable as there is hardly anything that they can do to change themselves since transitioning to another gender (Transsexuals) doesn’t change their sexual orientation. We will later, however, explore the frequent changes in attraction that often happens with physically transitioning to the opposite gender. For scientific research or, maybe, human nature calls for descriptions whether it’s “sad”, “happy”, “dry”. “wet” and so on. Some of those who hate labels call themselves “pansexual” as an all inclusive word that means diverse sexual expression or expressing oneself sexually in different forms. It has no value but does make those people more comfortable in their own skins. Another term often used by those who don’t care to be put in one cubby-hole or another is “sexual curious”. Sorry folks but that excuse will not exclude you from the following.

First let’s name the four that we are all familiar with:Heterosexual or straight; Bi-sexual or attracted to both the male and female sex though the attraction may be more so with one sex than with the other; homosexual or gay and.asexual which means genderless, without sexual organs or without sexual desire and activity. The new findings (only new in labeling) does not as yet have a name but only a description. Generally this writer believes that this group comes from a portion of those heretofore calling themselves heterosexual cross dressers. These are CDs who are solely in love with themselves and that self is perceived by them to be female or women. What is not clear at this writing is whether they viewed or were attracted to themselves in this light when they were children or attracted to this self-love after years of cross dressing. The test seems to be the lack of desire to have sex with a genetic female at any age of their maturing. A reader may believe that this group are merely fetish cross dressers who never outgrew those propensities. While “fetish” is usually defined as a sexual attraction to an inanimate object this newly defined group are solely attracted to their own image as a woman..The difference between them and those who desire to transition is that they don’t want to physically change their external organs nor is there any apparent attraction to other males.

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MYTHS, FALLACIES AND MOST THERAPISTS WITHOUT A CLUE

Blog #35

 

Julie Gaum, aka Julian Gladstone

There has been new research, and progress, since the second edition of Never Climbed His Mountain was published in late 2011,so from time to time we will insert them into this series of blogs on the “Myths” chapter: Both the American Psychology and the American Psychiatric Associations recently declared it unethical for a therapist to convince or try to pursuade a transgender (including heterosexual cross dressers) to accept their birth gender in any manner including life style. Note that the above are not their exact words but a summary thereof. Also, a large sampling of cross dressers revealed that the fetish stage that was common for many but not all during the pre-teen and teen years carried over for a not insignificant portion into later years, i.e., the 40s and 50s. In fact that fetish attraction for feminine clothing lasted a lifetime for a small percent.