Post No. 18
Many CDs believe that one should always be honest with a chosen mate so they divulge their secret before marriage.
On the flip side, others believe that once they have been married for a period of time and the initial lover’s passion has subdued to be replaced with a more lasting bond of love, then revealing their proclivities has a greater chance to be accepted (Except some wives then believe “What other secrets is he hiding?”).
Both approaches have merit. This writer strongly believes that the former approach is far better as the would-be marriage partner has, and frequently does, pull out before the vows. Further, more than 50%, according to my research, of the culminated marriages fall apart sooner or later. No contest, in my opinion.
Post No. 17
A critic to the compatibility estimates comments that perhaps some of the “accepting” wives do so not out of love but because they either depend on their mate financially, don’t want a divorce in consideration of children or simply don’t have enough confidence that they are able to find another partner. One can’t dispute that some of these factors might influence those accepting 42% though more likely these are probably reasons why some of the 16% segment that tolerate do so rather than just divorce. I personally can’t imagine that a spouse who buys her mate’s female clothes and makeup does so for any other reason than it makes both partners happy sharing this activity. Consider too that many unmarried couples share in these same activities and don’t depend on the other partner financially so I would have to delegate that financial influence to less a reason for remaining together than I had first imagined.